Human beings are social creatures who need relationships to survive. We have families, we make friends, we smile at strangers we see on the street and sometimes we fight. Relationships are a core component of our evolution.
Our forefathers could not have hunted the mammoth alone and they needed to stick together as a pack if they wanted to avoid being dinner to a Sabre-toothed tiger. Now, when you are hunting mammoths and avoiding being a tigers' dinner, it’s only natural that one or two fall in love with each other. But nowadays there aren’t a lot of mammoths or sabre-toothed predators around to put a 'spark' in our relationships.
After the initial excitement of getting to know a person, some relationships go through the monotony of monogamy. The world around us evolved- we have phones and planes, and we have fast-food chains that can whip up a burger in under 5 minutes, but the core components of a ‘human-human’ relationship have stayed the same - Companionship, which failed to evolve with us. This concept of companionship sometimes can’t be fulfilled in modern day relationships because of our fast-paced world with all its distractions and the glitz and glam. This ends up putting a strain on relationships and puts a fire-hose of water on the ‘spark’ that ignites your interest in a fellow human.
Failing to ‘spice up ‘ your relationship might end up in you having to find another monogamy, different from the monogamy you were in before.
Here are 4 super easy ideas that The Pure Brown Men have curated for you to be ‘couple goals’ till the end of time.
1. Date Nights
Love, it’s such a beautiful thing- it’s companionship, it’s togetherness, it’s us against the world, it’s much more than trivial, material things.
Although, who doesn’t like dressing up for a fancy meal once in a while. Here is our suggestion, dedicate a night, just for the two of you. However busy, however packed, every Sunday we want you to plan a day in the coming week for the two of you and ONLY THE TWO OF YOU! Bare minimum- Once a month.
If you can’t take a day for your partner at least once a month, re-evaluate your relationship. If you can’t spend time with one another it might be because you don’t want to and that is problematic.
Hot tips: Fix a virtual date if you are in a long-distance relationship. If you are a parent, find a babysitter for your kids.
2. Explore Your Intimacy
Put the ‘intimate’ back into your intimate relationship. If your food lacks spice, what’s the first thing that comes to your mind?- hot sauce. (metaphorically! Please don’t literally bring a bottle of hot sauce to bed, please.) Sometimes, life’s most complicated questions have the simplest of answers. An intimate relationship could go cold if the intimacy goes cold, so spice things up: read up on intimacy, learn new methods and techniques and let the animal inside roar loud and breathe free- sans judgement.
P.S: Every bit of intimacy in your intimate relationship requires consent. Consent is paramount. No ifs, no buts.
3. Skincare Sundays
We are really excited about this one. The crux of all our advice before this was simple- spend quality time together. But here, we have added an extra layer. Spend quality time together and get a very visual result out of it- flawless skin.
Vanitize an evening of self-care by starting with skincare. Get mugs of peppermint tea, a nice scented candle, beautiful music filling in the background while you talk sweet nothing and take care of your skin in plush robes. If you tell us you don’t want to stay together after that, it’s probably because of far more deep-rooted reasons than what a blog can resolve.
Here is a Pure Brown Tip:
It’s hard finding good skincare products for men. Skincare for men is often ignored and that is not okay. When you are going to spend time together with your partner, make sure to get him skincare that is designed for his chemistry.
4. Spend Some Time Apart
Sounds counterintuitive, doesn’t it? Ever heard “Blessings are not valued till they are gone”? The idea is that sometimes we don’t know the value of something amazing when we have it. Staying apart might just be the biggest eye-opening exercise of your relationship. Take a ‘you’ break and see what happens. Who knows, you might fall in love with them all over again.
Try these out and see if these work. But do remember one thing- this is a blog. These are just fun recommendations and suggestions, not professional advice.
We highly recommend getting professional help if you are trying to seriously work on your relationship. You could start by googling ‘couple counselling’ near me.
It’s no secret that we here at Pure Brown are obsessed with skincare for men. We believe that everyone deserves to have beautiful, healthy skin. But as with many things, skincare for men is often overlooked. If you want to take care of your skin and be a part of our skincare revolution- join the Brown Squad and earn yourself some major brownie points.
Don’t compromise on your skin, elevate your skincare game and #BeThatGuy